Have you ever plastered a fake smile across your face? Or responded to the age old question of "How are you?" with an obligatory "Doing well, and you?" When in reality all you want to do is scream or cry or just crawl back under the covers and not come out for a week.
I think it's safe to say we have all been there.
While sometimes it's easier or even necessary to glaze over how you are really feeling when out in public, it's really important that you don't do this with yourself. I've found the fake it til you make it approach simply doesn't work when it comes to our emotions. While it may work for the short term, all the stuff you've been avoiding builds up, and eventually explodes.
Yesterday while scrolling Insta I watched a video where a surgeon said women diagnosed with breast cancer shared that they had experienced some form of significant trauma (physical or emotional) in the 5 years prior to the diagnosis. I can't find any studies that back this up, so perhaps it was more anecdotal evidence from this doctor's experience - but hearing that really stopped me in my tracks. It aligns a lot with what is discussed in the book, The Body Keeps the Score. You need to learn how to feel your emotions. It is through feeling it, that we can begin to heal.
We need to address our feelings. We need to hold space for our emotions so that we can process them. Our health and well-being may depend on it.
Join me and tap through the intense emotion you've been avoiding or suppressing. This tap-a-long video focuses on intense sadness, but you can replace the emotion with whatever you are dealing with in your life.
This can be a challenging process. Ask for help if you need it! I am here to support you.