It's that time of year - back to school! So if you have kids, that means it's time to get settled into a new routine.
Starting a new routine or incorporating new habits can be tough. So often my clients will tell me "I know what I need to do, I just cant make myself do it!"
Does that sound familiar? Resistance, oh that pesky resistance can seemingly show up out of no where, and the next thing you know you are making excuses and aren't taking aligned action.
Often, when the goals are too large to digest, breaking them down into smaller more digestible achievable goals is a great way to make progress.
When you reduce your goals which then reduce the size of your habits, it makes it easier to develop automatic subconscious habits.
We all have habits that we’d like to incorporate into our lives.
We want to go to workout three times a week, we want to meditate 20 minutes a day, or we want to write 1,000 words a day.
As is usually the case, we dream a little too big. The vision of that dream gets in the way of making it a reality.
While these may seem like modest goals, they’re actually big and scary. They’re just big enough that excuses are easy to make. We’re tired, so we’ll go to the gym tomorrow, or we don’t have time to meditate this morning, or your busy working on other projects and can't write today.
So, the habit never gets built.
The problem is that building the habit itself is an accomplishment. Writing 1,000 words for one day, in itself, is another accomplishment.
Your brain can only handle so many accomplishments at once. When you start stacking them together, it makes it easy for your ego to hide (aka making excuses).
The solution is to build the habit first. You have to set a ridiculously modest goal, and make a modest agreement with yourself:
Write 100 words a day for one week at [this time and place] each day.
Workout 3 times in one week on [these days and times], for 15 minutes each session.
Meditate for 2 minutes a day for one week at [this time and place] each day
This works because you’ll feel ridiculous if you make an excuse that you can’t close your eyes and breathe (meditate) for two minutes!
But something happens as you start to build your ridiculously easy habit. You start to feel good about it. When you feel good about it, you start to enjoy it. When you enjoy it, it’s easy to do.
Start simple, be specific, and remember you can always use tapping to help you bust through any remaining resistance!
Here's a tap a long video that can help!
Is resistance keeping you stuck? Maybe you know what to do, but you just aren't doing it. Or maybe there is big fear that is holding you back. I am here to help. Let's talk!